Tuesday, November 30, 2010

To Purge or Not To Purge

I decided it’s time for a good closet purge. I started with mine of course, and found a lot of oldies that will become someone else’s goodies. I also found a lot of maternity clothes which forced me to think… Am I going to need them again? I mean maternity clothes aren’t cheap; should I be storing them away for future use or should they go in a bag to good will with the rest of my stuff?

I get the question all the time, ‘Do you think you’ll have another one?’ and I never know what to say. Before Evan came along, when I thought about having a family, that family always consisted of at least two children. Now I’m not so sure. My first 6 months as a mother has been amazing and inspiring, but it's also been very challenging and difficult at times. I think since becoming a mother I have experienced a whole new realm of emotions I didn’t even know I could feel. Maybe when Evan’s two the tough stuff will be a distant memory and all I’ll think about is how wonderful it felt to have a newborn in my arms. Or maybe not. My motto is never say never so I won’t, but right now I’m quite happy with my one beautiful little baby... Then again as I look at the pile of maternity clothes sitting on my bed I still can't seem to make a decision on what to do with them. Perhaps this is one of those examples where actions speak louder than words.

8 comments:

  1. Hang on to them. The fact that you have to think about it should say it all. I'm hanging on to mine because even though I adore my little guy I know I want him to have a little brother or sister one day.

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  2. Things are going to get easier and you will forget all about the challenges...I found things got better after 6 months, then after 12 months, time just started flying. Lila is now 18 months old and I cannot wait to have another little baby in my arms!

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  3. Give them away or sell them at a baby consignment shop that also takes maternity clothes... if you do get pregnant again you'll want the latest trend ;)

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  4. Ask yourself this (I know I did) - what will you regret most in 5, 10, 20 years from now - not having another child or deciding to have another? I am currently pregnant with my second, my first will be 4 in January and I must admit she's a drama queen! And if, god forbid, I have another like her, I can see my husband divorcing me in 5 years (kidding of course). But despite all this, it's the wonderful times you remember most, not the hard or bad!

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  5. I have been going back and forth with my decision to have another one or not. I would love another baby and my little guy could have a brother or sister but at the same time, my son is turning 3 in a few weeks and things are getting so much easier as time goes. No more paying for daycare, no diapers ect..... But I have been told MANY times - it's never to late to change my mind.

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  6. Hold on to them. I thought the same thing. I ended keeping mine and now i have 2.

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  7. If you're anything like me you'll want the latest fashion when you do decide to get pregnant again. My boys are a little over 5 years apart and when I got pregnant with my second son let me tell you I was glad to have all new clothes because between the first and second pregnancies the styles changed so much and I didn't end up looking ridiculous in my old maternity clothes.

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  8. Keep the classic (ageless) pieces and give (or sell) the others. It will be a nice treat for yourselve to go on a nice shopping spree.

    As for baby number 2, think of what it would be like for Evan to grow up as an only child - christmas, holidays, summer times etc... plus, it's only the first 2 years that are harder, it get expenantially easier as they get older - plus - they become each other's buddy and keep each other company! My two boys are always playing together! It's comforting to know that no matter what - they'll always have each other! Plus, my eldest Sam - was totally meant to be an older brother and he's so great with his brother!

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